I Use a Wheelchair but I Am Not Incapable

Lately, I just feel like people think I am not capable. Yes, I use a wheelchair but I am not incapable.

A Recent Experience

I was asked if I made a cake. I replied that I had. To which I was questioned: ‘All of it?’ To which I replied: ‘Yes’. To which I was questioned: ‘What you made it and iced it?’ To which I replied: ‘Yes’. They still didn’t’ seem convinced.

I may need help getting stuff out. Lifting heavy items, holding me if I am standing etc. But I am not incapable.

Experiences Shape Us

This is why I feel so strongly about passing my ACCA exams and first time (if possible). To prove I am capable. Yes I use a wheelchair but I am not incapable. I feel I need to prove to the world my capability for myself and for other disabled people.

Should I have to prove? No. Do I feel the need to? Yes.

Physical and Mental Ability

Physically, I may not be able to do a lot, but mentally I can. I may not be able to manage for so long as non-disabled individuals, and get more tired, but the quality of the output is on par.

Don’t get me wrong the effort to achieve the task may be far more and definitely is. I don’t want recognition for that. I want to be recognised as an equal. I want people to stop assuming I am incapable.

One Positive Experience

The one thing that has stopped me getting too frustrated, is one positive experience. I took responsibility and felt I was trusted when I took my two godsons into the playground next door to the garden we were in. 

Offering Help

Obviously, offering help is appreciated, as long as the answer is respected. But this isn’t about that. This is about assuming people are not as mentally capable. 

Don’t Underestimate Disabled People

Disabled people may do things a different way, or it may take longer. But often they are able to achieve the task.

Please remember just because someone can’t walk doesn’t mean they are less capable. Don’t underestimate us!

Hannah x